From: Death@yabbs To: all@yabbs Subject: re: A problem I'm having... Date: Wed Jul 20 02:14:49 1994 hmmm... that's wierd, it says you don't exist... Anyways, I'm sorry to hear about your accident, and I hope that your sight DOES return. I know what it's like to be without sight in one eye. As for the subject of abortion, here's my conribution: I've been raised to believe that Life is sacred and that it should be protected at all costs. During the last year and a half, however, things have happened to change that belief. Now, I'm not sure exactly what I believe. AS for abortion, however, I do have a definite opinion: It should always be up to the woman (or girl) who is pregnant, although she should at least listen to the advice of the people around her. This opinion is the direct result of a personal experience with abortion. While I am a male, and will never be forced to make the decision myself, I have, unfortunately, had to help one of my best friends make the decision. To shorten the story (I HAD typed the whole thing, but before I was finished, the server kicked me for inactivity) Last April, one of my best friends was raped. Her parents are devout Roman Catholics, and as such wouldn't even THINK about abortion if she had gotten pregnant. She herself, however, couldn't bear to carry the child of the scumbag who had raped her. I completely agreed with her feeling, after having stayed up the whole night talking to her. I will never pretend to know what it's like to be invaded like that, but after that night of holding her, sobbing in my arms telling me what had happened, I did feel much of the same pain and her. I completely agreed with her feeling, after having stayed up the whole night talking to her. I will never pretend to know what it's like to be invaded like that, but after that night of holding her, sobbing in my arms telling me what had happened, I did feel much of the same pain and anger that she did, although most of it was actually her own. She didn't even want to tell her parents what had happened, lest they despise HER because of it. Eventually, she agreed that it was better if she did, and they reacted as parents would, not as she thought they would. They took her to the doctor, to make sure that she was physically all right. Luckily, aside from some bad bruises, she was. It was there that the quesiton came up: What if she was pregnant? At this point, the question was only a supposition. Sadly, it was a question that had to be answered. Personally, while I still felt that life is sacred, I also knew, to a degree, how she felt. Therefore, my opinion was that she should have an abortion. She herself could not bear to live if she had to bear the child. Thus, I knew that there can never be ONE answer to hte question. It has to be answered by each female who faces it, in their own way. Eventually,her parents saw the emotional pain she was in and gave their consent for her to have an abortion (parental consent is necesarry for minors in Pennsylvania). I know now that it was the right choice. While she still feels guilty about ending the child's life before it even began, she is far more deeply scarred by the rape itself, and I doubt if she could have endured the emotional pain of seeing the child born, an ever-present reminder of what had happened. Sorry if I rambled on a bit too much, but I didn't realize how much I had to say. --Les A note to ht: You have to fix yabbs so that it doesn't kick ppl who are writing long messages without a client for inactivity... It happened twice while I was trying to post this, until I saved my buffer to a file and endured the horrible lag entailed by using a client to actually post it...